Men and women are BFFs?

I will not say whether heterosexual men and women can have platonic friendship or whether a gay woman, the best friends with a gay man. Obviously, these types of scenarios are possible and even likely.
I mean: In a heterosexual context, you can ride or die, “know-your-all-the-dirt, in at-all-your-secret-cover-for-you-where are-you keep amazing best friend be all over the world to a person of the opposite sex that you do not have sexual relations?

Well, the jury stills this question.

What do I believe that men and women can certainly be BFFs after they fully understood that there are no Hanky ​​Panky, always will be? FWB No, not casual sex, not “oops” after a drunken night in a bar….
I have the question in different places social media and was greeted with a solid split decision. Many people say, “Yes, absolutely,” said, and an equal number, “No!” There are many people who are on the fence that says that if the provisions of the relations, mutual understanding, boundaries, distance, blah, blah, blah. Mr …. It almost seems too much work.

In fact, I’ll go one step further. If a person is attracted to the other, you can be BFFs NO. A person who is attracted to you can not, because BFF BFFs are – by definition – should give you advice pure, non-partisan, often about your love life. Someone who is attracted to you is not enough to aim. You can not. It is human nature.
What I discovered however, and what I now believe to be true that every woman needs a male BFF and every person needs a female BFF to 100%.
That’s why you need a BFF opposite sex:

My friend (let’s call her Irene) has been married for 20 + years. I knew her for a very long time, even before they married. During her life she has cultivated long-term, non-sexual relationships with a lot of people. Irene introduced me to one of her BFFs (let’s call him Brian). Irene and Brian have been friends for over 15 years.

Brian and I went at once.

It was a wonderful time.
Brian is generous, kind, funny, charming …
… And all in love with Irene.

 

I spent so much time with a man who allegedly tried to meet me, but spent 80% of the time another woman to talk, even though a friend of mine. I was not offended because I know that Irene and the stories were funny, so I rolled him only. However, I immediately recognized ole BFF-BWM (but want more) syndrome, but Brian was totally blind.

Then, when I became friends with stories about hosting friends in my experience, often passes through many of the stories I told Brian, heard my friends and laughed and said, “Well, he is not for the future …. You” (You can both appropriate moments (# fondly my friends) can).

 

What I found interesting is that proclaim every one of my male friends (they are only friends and acquaintances, not exactly BFFs), I stopped in the middle of history, a version of “You know, Brian falls in love with Irene, not” You do not know?
That’s exactly what I needed! Support and speak directly. Typical male, heterosexual can not be the same kind of “Go Girl!” Support women can give to your friends. This is not an insult to the people. It is not just what people do. Women are keepers of the species. Men, on the other hand, are no-nonsense, hard-core male perspective. Women can not offer, even if you have more brothers, for … well … Women and their views are an interpretation of the male perspective forever.

By Taha Mateen

    

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